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The Four Agreements
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Apr 23, 2008, 09:44

Hi everyone, from a post today on AHS I was reminded of a book called The Four Agreements, by Miquel Ruiz.  I don't own it, but did browse it in the library once. And a friend a few years ago gave me a print out of the Four Agreements, not the book, just the summary of them, and which is lost now in all my piles of stuff.                     

These are the Four Agreements, short version:

1. Be Impeccable With Your Word
Speak with integrity. Say only what you mean. Avoid using the word to speak against yourself or to gossip about others. Use the power of your word in the direction of truth and love.

2. Don't Take Anything Personally
Nothing others do is because of you. What others say and do is a projection of their own reality, their own dream. When you are immune to the opinions and actions of others, you won't be the victim of needless suffering.

3. Don't Make Assumptions
Find the courage to ask questions and to express what you really want. Communicate with others as clearly as you can to avoid misunderstandings, sadness and drama. With just this one agreement, you can completely transform your life.

4. Always Do Your Best
Your best is going to change from moment to moment; it will be different when you are healthy as opposed to sick. Under any circumstance, simply do your best, and you will avoid self-judgment, self-abuse and regret.  

Taken from:  http://www.miguelruiz.com/fouragreements.html

God Conscious folks pay attention to what they do and analyze the results of such, which is something everyone must understand as being important to individual growth.  Honoring the God Within means you pay attention and take responsibility for your actions, beliefs and the like, taking responsibility for the whole you. 

I suggest a really good tool as your evaluate yourself, is to use these.  This is how you build your integrity. Take any situation you have found yourself in and ask all of these about it. Were you impeccable? When another confronts you in some way, did they go against who you know you are? If so, don't take it personally (but you are allowed your defense sometimes beloveds. 

However if the person hit a nail on the head, look and see if you were impeccable or not, did you express yoursef clearly, did you take some for granted that you should not have, etc. etc. etc. These ideas used carefully can greatly enhance your personal growth, and beloveds, its ALWAYS about YOUR PERSONAL GROWTH, THAT IS THE WHOLE POINT. -Candace

PS, in these times of being in 4th dimension, the "get off the fence" dimension, however, assume with some people that they are not of the light, and be careful about what you communicate to them about yourself. Sometimes the best communication is no communication, or minimal. Do not give people who can't be trusted, your pearls.

Impeccability does not necessarily mean giving information that another will screw with and use to harm you. I am a naturally honest person who does not like "game playing" , but at times you must assume others do enjoy game playing and protect yourself. I think it better to be cautious until you more fully perceive the intent of others. This is the time of the final confrontations between evil and the light.

Sometimes the "impeccable" thing to do is to lie or to not give out information. This is behind Esu's teaching of long ago, of not giving out pearls, and when in court and the like, NOT taking oaths and keeping answers to yes and no. Do not self incriminate yourself or others, espcially in the absence of real wrong doing. That's behind the 5th amendment. Use common sense. If you have a friend who has fled to a shelter or somewhere from an abusive friend, and whom fears for her life, don't give out her location, or new phone number or the like. It would at times be absoleltuly the best and more impeccable reply to say, I do not know.