Assisting ones in Shock

 March 13, 2010

Me: It is my intent to ask for truth in assisting others with loss of their
loved ones and the shock of changes. I wish to know how I can be of service to
them.

Hello dear. CM here. We are happy to oblige as this is the type of information
we wish to provide through you.

A formula, if you will, is not useful for all cases that you will encounter for
each will be unique. There are some general patterns in the human experience of
loss that will be valuable to examine here. Know that the initial tearing
asunder of their beliefs, their reality that included the "missing" individuals
will create the shock that will sneak up on some and will hit others like a
brick wall.

Dealing effectively with these situations will always first entail
an acknowledgement of the person's loss. It should then include making oneself
available to listen - not to provide unrequested advice. This listening will
allow them to open the door to possible answers beyond their fear. Until that
point - there is no open door.

So wait patiently until the request is made.

Then offer in the simplest form in words that are meaningful to the culture mindset
and practices of the individual. Offer up certain leading questions that he
individual will begin to fill in for themselves. This brings comfort and
believability to the process of understanding - it can come no other way than
through the individual. As the host often says about communication "questions
are a good thing". It is true, as it lays common level ground for the exchange
and begins to build trust when trust has been shattered. Offer little bits of
information in the form of questions - Do you think it is possible that ... Do not
overwhelm an individual with information that they have not requested. It will
slam the door shut to the possibility of connecting to a greater reality
lifeline that they can make sense from.

This is all for now. We will talk more about this important issue.
We shall continue. In preparation for meeting and helping individuals, one
should clear oneself, protect oneself, attune oneself and bring in the Christ
Light. Then extend a secondary "bubble" of this energy out toward the
individual. They will accept this energy if it is their will and timing to do
so. Then begins the acknowledgement and listening. It is imperative that you
offer this light connection for them and honor their choice in drinking it in to
light and organize their own energy. Think on this.
We will talk again later.

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